Watershed moment.

When my first serious relationship ended, I thought I would never get laid again. For more than a year, I didn't. I just figured that ...

Tactile peek.

One of my favorite things is the feeling of a man getting hard inside his jeans. A guy getting hard not inside his jeans is pretty awesome ...

PT.

Here's a tricky question: in jobs like firefighting, police, and the military, should there be separate PT standards for men and women? ...

Treading the Twisty line.

My current work partner is, to put it mildly, not from my cultural background. He was raised as a very strict Traditional Values Evangelica...

Why sex is dirty.

I have a pair of stuffed animals, a little horse and cow, that I've had since I was born and they're extremely special to me; they s...

Three strawmen.

I so often hear sex described in terms of genitals. Sex is all about penis and/or vagina, and everything else is trappings. (Especially fo...

Cleanliness.

I had a one-night-stand a little ways back with a guy who seemed normal enough: cute curly hair, the not-socially-hopeless kind of geek, sup...

What I'm reading now.

Happyendingz - confessions of an erotic masseuse. It's a fascinatingly matter-of-fact look into a business I always thought was little m...

Internet Money.

In the past month I've been doing very well making money off the Internets (via Ebay and Etsy primarily, making jewelry and reselling us...

Links People Sent Me.

Woman's life made 'unbearable' by insatiable libido To be honest this isn't a sex story so much as a medical story, and if h...

iPorn.

So there I was, searching the iTunes App Store for some mindless fiddly-fiddly games to while away the workday, and what's topping the ...

Horrifying realization.

Some women wear panty-liners every day . Like, even when they don't have their periods! ...Am I gross because I don't? ...Why has n...

Cosmocking: January '10!

Bubblegum pink cover! Amanda Bynes! Her outfit is nice except for a weird belt around her belly and no belt in her actual belt loops! I j...

Makeup.

I don't really "get" makeup. I wear a little bit sometimes, but I don't really understand why, I'm just conforming to...

"The Silent Strike!"

Fabulous video link, courtesy elmo_iscariot: Cosmo Brainstorming (NWS dialogue but visually inoffensive.)

My First Porn Site.

When I was thirteen years old, my best friend and I started a porn site. Well, an erotica site; it didn't have photos, but there was a s...

Summer loving, winter loving.

Summer sex always seems a little more expansive, exploratory. Let's do it outside! Let's get up early and do it! Let's run all ...

Crazy clingy bitch.

An attitude I am really fucking sick of: "Yeah, this chick I fucked called back and was all like she wanted to see me again, talk about...

Oh no, the "youth" have technology!

One-third of youths have engaged in "sexting." By "youth" they mean ages 14-24, so I'm included there, despite my in...

Jealousy.

I don't entirely understand women who get jealous when their boyfriends look at porn. I understand strip clubs being more of a problem ...

The Two Myths of Desire.

When I started this blog, one of this first myths I wanted to tackle was that women weren't horny. (My counter-evidence consisting larg...

Cuddle paradox.

On the one hand, I wish there was more nonsexual touch in my life. I wish my friends and I hugged more and that when we shared a sofa there...

Accepting pain.

I love pain, but I can be kind of a finicky masochist, because I also hate pain. That is, it turns me on, but it hurts like a motherfucker ...

The Boner Line.

There's a lot of bemoaning the inability of media to include sex without being all weird about it. Books, movies, and TV shows tend to ...

Distraction.

Not dead, just got Fallout 3. Can't talk. Raiders. AUGH THERE'S ONE BEHIND ME AUUUGH BOOM HEADSHOT what was I saying? --- Anyway...

Short thoughts.

Is it just me, or does it seem like (with the exception of grocery and clothing stores) you see a lot more men than women alone in public? ...

Getting my night's worth.

There have been times that I haven't gotten further than a kiss that I've gone home with my head swimming with satisfaction and warm...

Geek boys.

Geek boys are easy pickings, they appreciate it more, and--not to come off completely evil here--afterwards, we'll actually have things ...

Links Time!

LabRat on masculinity. For as long as I’ve known him, [Stingray] has always acted as though it were a long-since forgone conclusion that his...

END OF LINE.

When I lost my virginity, the movie on in the background was Tron. Back in the day, Kevin and I almost had to watch a movie to have sex. It...

Cosmocking: December '09!

White cover! I always like the white covers, they're so much nicer than the ridiculous screaming-neon-colors ones! Fergie! Right afte...

First time.

There's nothing quite like the first time you have sex with a new person. There's an element of permission-seeking, of discovery, o...

Spam bleg.

Does anyone know why I'm getting constant spam on just one post? It's kind of a vitriolic one , so I'm concerned that somehow so...

Specificity.

I used to be a lot more... specific... in this blog, didn't I? Used to go through practically every time I had sex in detail. I don...

Historical reenactment.

The Beatles' White Album was on, disco lights were playing off the walls, and I was sitting on a beanbag chair, my clothes sort of pulle...

Speaking of experimenting...

Also, I can fit four fingers in my butt. It's weird how quickly an act can go from being something I've only heard of, something tha...

Midday on the sixth day.

I was at church the other Sunday (what can I say, I'm an inveterate experimenter; also, it was a UU church and I don't think you can...

The Mile High Ladies' Auxiliary.

So, um... does it still count as the Mile High Club if you only have sex with yourself? Hmm. (Warning: annoying porny image host because th...

Out of town.

I'm going to Boston tonight and getting back next Tuesday night. Updates will be sporadic (and agonizingly pecked out on a handheld) u...

Lifestyle choice.

Man, not only did I not choose to be attracted to both men and women, I don't even get to choose which ones.

Management has the right to refuse service.

So I was talking to a guy at a kink event about the awkward little dance of kinky pick-ups, and I mentioned that it's extra awkward when...

Whoo.

R-71 passes. (By a narrow margin with not all votes entered, so I shouldn't count my chickens, but oh my how many chickens I have! ) W...

Radio Ad.

Someone is putting way too much money into opposing R-71 (domestic partnerships), and I really wonder what they possibly have to gain by it....

It's rude to say "Well, DUH."

Man, leaving Benny was about the best thing I ever did for myself. Not just because of the little abuse incident, but because it shook me ou...

Gateway Drug.

My gateway drug was The Rocky Horror Picture Show . I watched it for the first time when I was maybe 13, at home in the middle of the day ...

all i really want

Sometimes I'm embarrassed how little it takes to make me happy. I think I'm supposed to want to change the world somehow, to discov...

NaNoWriMo!

I'm getting a jump start on my NaNoWriMo project today. It was supposed to be an erotic novel, but four pages in it's turning into ...

Small Circles.

Sometimes I feel like half of the population is perverts. It's really amazing how many people, once you get to where they're comfor...

On Stereotypes.

I can always find my jacket really easily when I leave a fetish meetup, because I wear a brown leather jacket.

Keeping it in the bedroom.

I had a Very Bad, No Good, Horrible Terrible day at work today. I don't mean "late on TPS reports" bad, I mean that I was spa...

Very important tip.

Brush your teeth. Not just right before dates but all the time. And use mouthwash. And mints. I can't count the number of times I tho...

Reality.

The other night, I had dinner with witches and goddesses, masters and slaves, 40-year-old little girls and human dogs. It was really just c...

Why I'm not a hooker.

The difference between sex and. prostitution isn't just that money gets exchanged. A prostitute accepts money in lieu of having his/her...

10 tips for having sex with women.

1. Women are rather submissive, and will appreciate a bit of take-charge in your attitude, from a little extra firmness in your touch to sho...

I started writing a really thoughtful essay, but I got stuck, so.

If you've had sex with everyone your partners have had sex with, I've had sex with a chinchilla. (Making it even worse: I learned th...

Worth 1000 words.

(With thanks to Unix-Jedi by way of LabRat.)

Pervert.

Kinky people habitually refer to themselves as "perverts"; it's sort of a half-joke, a bit of reclaimed persecution, the ...

Blood.

I love seeing my own blood. Not because it's the life being drained out of me, but because it's a tiny fraction of the life that...