We are the 95%.

TRIGGER WARNING FOR RAPE on all that follows, including all links. [I wasn't going to write this post today. Believe it or not, I really...

The Myth of the Boner Werewolf.

OpenCage photo library I was having sex with Rowdy.  I was on my knees, and he was behind me, thrusting, slapping my ass, biting my back.  W...

The missing stair.

Flickr user BadSwan Have you ever been in a house that had something just egregiously wrong with it?  Something massively unsafe and uncomfo...

Why I didn't just call the cops.

[ MAJOR TRIGGER WARNING for the nitty-gritty of sexual assault and aftermath. This is not a happy post and it's not one I really wanted...

Rescripting sex.

Life has scripts.  Little socially-agreed plays that we enact rather than trying to figure out all our interactions from scratch every time....

Consent culture.

Today I'm going to fulfill a promise I made quite a while ago , and talk about what a consent culture would look like. A consent culture...

Beyond not rape.

Everyone (well, everyone cool) agrees that consent is the  most important thing in sexual activities.  It's the difference between haras...

"No means no."

[Possible trigger warning for sexual assault] When I had my first sexual encounter, he didn't ask. We were just friends and we were han...

"Why does she stay with that jerk?"

If there's one thing I've learned from working in an emergency room, it's that people are terrible liars. Maybe I only think th...

Answering Slutwalk FAQs.

In reading the reaction to the Slutwalk blog posts and news coverage, I feel like there might be a little bit of a message gap in the Slutwa...

Slutwalk after-action report.

The Slutwalk was fun. Bigger than I'd expected--there had to be at least a couple hundred thousand folks there--and full of energy and...

Slutwalk.

Tomorrow, at noon, a group of protestors will be walking around Boston Commons (starting from the bandstand near Emerson) to protest rape, r...

Rape Culture: Hope.

Enough about problems. Enough about the way our culture hates women and men and sex. I could bitch all day and into next year about what...

Rape Culture: Defending the indefensible.

Comments sections on the Internet have a strange sort of entropy, in the literal sense of reverting to lower and lower states unless they re...

Rape Culture: Against The Door.

Wow, the "Rape Culture Two" post is taking forever to write. In the meantime to keep the theme alive, here's a scenario that...

Rape Culture: What Is Rape Culture?

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