A puppy, and maybe-jokes.

I just got back from Christmas with Rowdy's family!  It was happy and cozy and his parents cooked like they were fattening us up to eat ...

The Worst Thing In The World.

Because Nothing is Scarier . I used to believe there was such a thing as The Worst Thing In The World.  It's a pretty nebulous thing, mo...

Models of Sex.

When I was sixteen, my boyfriend Kevin brought me a vibrator.  (His mom had bought it, which... awwwwkward, but it was her well-intentioned ...

Just one ally.

When I worked on an ambulance (this is my personal "one time in band camp"), we were at a nursing home, dropping a patient off aft...

The Geek Social Fallacies of Sex.

xkcd With all apologies to the original , which all geeks should read... I think geek sexuality is an awesome thing.  God knows it's the...

"Why do you care what other people think?"

This came up in comments on an earlier post, but it's worth a post of its own: why do I care and fret so much about whether or not peopl...

The end of normal.

Us polyamorous folk can get a little bit... evangelical, sometimes.  We're so enlightened, you know.  So evolved.  We deal with our jeal...

Feels good.

When we had D.A.R.E. (Drug Abuse something something don't do it kids) at my elementary school, they talked about reasons kids might sta...

Relationship Ed.

I'm glad schools teach Sex Ed, even if they do make an awful mess of it; knowing how your sexy parts work, what risks sex carries, and h...

Sinsational!

When did "sin" become synonymous with sex? The Bible has a few commandments relating to sex--no adultery, no gay stuff, no fucking...

A head cold.

I have what I will freely admit is very mild and very occasional depression. But it had been hitting me kinda bad the last couple weeks. I...

Asymmetrical perceptions.

I like kinky porn. Because of conflicting and troubling stories about the consent/enthusiasm of the performers, I've gotten pretty pick...

"Why does she stay with that jerk?"

If there's one thing I've learned from working in an emergency room, it's that people are terrible liars. Maybe I only think th...

When love is more destructive than sex.

When I was 19, I had casual sex with a much older man for no good reason. I kind of regret it, but it didn't really hurt me; it was jus...

DSMocking!

May 2013! Blue cover, maybe! No famous actress or model on the cover because that would be really weird! The major resource codifying t...

On Eating Our Own.

Here's something I'm still conflicted about: finding a statement that is basically feminist, basically accepting, but has some flaws...

Multiplicity and the feeling of opening your mind.

A multiple system, or one of its members (apologies because I will fuck up terminology here) commented on my last post about how often they...

Consequences.

Every time you use the letter "u," I'm going to smack you on the nose. That's the consequence if you use that letter. ...

Broccoli Morality.

When I was a kid, we'd have broccoli for dinner, and my mom would boil it to death with no seasonings (my mom is the worst cook), and I...

Supply-Side Rape Prevention.

I've posted quite a few times ( 1 , 2 , 3 , and more) on why the commonly given "rape prevention" advice is mostly ineffective...