How To Have Sex On Purpose.

Captain Awkward. Or Sue.  I might have gotten my notes switched. I had an amazing time in Chicago this weekend.   Everyone at the University...

Circumstantial evidence.

A vaginal photoplethysmograph. It knows what you like. Even if you disagree. I got about fifteen pages into Sex at Dawn before giving up. P...

Fairly unfair.

Rowdy and I are not officially a mono/poly couple, but we're pretty close these days.  I've only had sex with other people a handful...

The end of normal.

Us polyamorous folk can get a little bit... evangelical, sometimes.  We're so enlightened, you know.  So evolved.  We deal with our jeal...

"Is this spot taken?"

Far too often, patients at the ER try to hit on me. (If you are picturing someone cute and polite who is in the ER for reasons that have not...

Internalization.

This weekend, I walked in the Boston Dyke March as an ally. It was a wonderful, powerful atmosphere. And one, literally, of pride; of thou...

My Polyamorous Heart.

[Guest post by Rowdy] One of the typical assumptions about monogamy is that the heart is a defined quantity, to love more than one person is...

Model minority.

One of the subtler nastinesses about having an "alternative" lifestyle is the fear of revealing any personal conflict or angst to ...

Out.

I told my family about being poly. I didn't mention being kinky and I didn't get into gritty details--lots of "the three of us...

Poly Morality.

"If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was." I believe that. ...

...Giant whiteboards?

Man, how did people ever manage polyamory before Google Calendar?

Quiet night.

Last night Sprite and Rowdy and I got together and... pretty much just stayed in. We ate some takeout, exchanged belated Christmas presents...

Freely given.

It's a little scary at first, but awesome when I think about it, that Rowdy not only can but does get sex and love elsewhere. Because h...

Nothing to reconcile.

Man, I've come up with better answers in the past, but really, being asked to "reconcile" being a feminist and being a polyamo...

98% normal.

It's weird sometimes to think of my relationship with Rowdy and Sprite as weird. We're still alien enough to society to be worthy o...

Unexpected Poly Challenges.

There are many complications to being in a relationship that involves two other people. And I don't mean the big ones like time managem...

Stamina.

I'm starting to believe that Rowdy is poly not just because of personal convictions, emotional makeup, or sexual proclivities, but becau...

Good clean fun.

When guys picture sex with two women, they probably imagine a lot of what happened last night: -Sprite and me, lying side by side on the bed...

Unrelated.

I kind of want someone to do the PUA thing to me. Just for the experience. But I realize that this is essentially a paradoxical wish, beca...

Four worlds.

There's this world, online. Everything's very dramatic here--we're very open with our viewpoints and our self-disclosure, very ...