We are the 95%.

TRIGGER WARNING FOR RAPE on all that follows, including all links. [I wasn't going to write this post today. Believe it or not, I really...

Everyone else is doing it... right?

Now someone, somewhere, thinks it's normal to slut-shame a steak. Rowdy and I watched porn together last night.  Because Rowdy is a gent...

The missing stair.

Flickr user BadSwan Have you ever been in a house that had something just egregiously wrong with it?  Something massively unsafe and uncomfo...

Real consent.

tumblr user laceandcombatboots EDIT: Okay, some people are linking to this with the wrong intentions. I need to clarify.  This is NOT NOT NO...

The scene is not safe.

[Trigger warning for rape and BDSM abuse.] I went to a sex party not long ago.  I talked to a bunch of the members and organizers of the gro...

Consent culture.

Today I'm going to fulfill a promise I made quite a while ago , and talk about what a consent culture would look like. A consent culture...

Strong woman.

It's a school night.  Quick one.  (Several people asked for a post on "self-de-escalation," so I'll try to put one togethe...

Sex-Pozzie.

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Survivor.

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"No means no."

[Possible trigger warning for sexual assault] When I had my first sexual encounter, he didn't ask. We were just friends and we were han...

This ass is (not) money.

On my list of Things That Seriously Need To Stop, somewhere below "violence" and "hatred" but well above "having th...

The puzzle of persuasion.

What makes someone change their mind? It's a fundamental problem in almost any kind of activism, and a major one in feminism. How do you...

I woke up as a man today.

This morning at 7 AM, the alarm went off, I woke up, and I was a man. Oh, no penis or anything like that. All the effects of that second X ...

"Why does she stay with that jerk?"

If there's one thing I've learned from working in an emergency room, it's that people are terrible liars. Maybe I only think th...