Monday, 19 January 2009

It's funny, the older I get, the less tolerant I feel about older people having sex with teenagers. When I was a teenager, I was all for it--hey, I'm a grownup, I can make my own decisions Mom, it ain't rape if I say yes, if I want to bang a twenty-two-year-old or a forty-three-year-old then I damn well will! From fifteen to seventeen, I was all about the overage boys, and online I even pulled the Reverse Chris Hansen: "wanna cyber, im ninteen!"

Then I crossed the magical Eighteen Line, and there was a funny incident: I was flirting with a guy at a party and someone pulled me aside and said "you do know he's fourteen." (He was like six foot with a full beard, I had no idea.) And I was disgusted. I was comfortable with breaking the age barrier with myself on the lower side, but not in the other direction. I could be statutory-raped and go "hehe, technically you're raping me!", but "hehe, technically I'm raping you!" just wasn't as funny.

Then a couple years later my sister (five years younger than me) got into all sorts of trouble with boys, and I started to realize; viewed from the outside, she really wasn't making good and free decisions. Like any teenager, she was pulled every which way by peer pressure and impulsivity and defiance-for-the-sake-of-defiance. And for an adult to step in on that sort of confusion and use it for sex wasn't just icky but evil.

I used to have some sympathy for the guys trapped by Chris Hansen: they never did anything with a real child, after all, and they were practically entrapped! Now I really don't. (Well, I do think some of the specific crimes they're charged with are inaccurate in the absence of real harm to a minor, but I still think they're totally horrible people.) Any adult who responds to "I'm fifteen" by continuing to even talk about sex doesn't deserve sympathy.




All this comes from an incident last night where I told a guy I was thirteen (just for shits and giggles because he came out of nowhere to agrammatically "a/s/l hunny?" me) and his response was "well do you wanna talk to a 22 year old guy?" Urgggh.

Then I got him banned and he called me a "bith." That's right honey, I'm an evil bith.

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