The Myth of the Boner Werewolf.

OpenCage photo library I was having sex with Rowdy.  I was on my knees, and he was behind me, thrusting, slapping my ass, biting my back.  W...

Just one ally.

When I worked on an ambulance (this is my personal "one time in band camp"), we were at a nursing home, dropping a patient off aft...

The Geek Social Fallacies of Sex.

xkcd With all apologies to the original , which all geeks should read... I think geek sexuality is an awesome thing.  God knows it's the...

Rescripting sex.

Life has scripts.  Little socially-agreed plays that we enact rather than trying to figure out all our interactions from scratch every time....

What would you do?

Today on the Pervocracy we're going to play "You Be The Armchair Quarterback," because I don't think I did the right thing...

What do you want?

[Finals are over!  WHEEE!  Big serious essay today!  Cosmocking next!] I talk a lot on this blog about how sex should be dictated by what th...

From slutty to horny.

Female horniness is an important, and missing, narrative in our culture.  We have a well-developed idea of female sluttiness , but that'...

Strong woman.

It's a school night.  Quick one.  (Several people asked for a post on "self-de-escalation," so I'll try to put one togethe...

Escalation.

This week in Developmental Psychology class I presented a paper on dating violence in teenage relationships.  I'm not going to rehash th...

Ten shades of "false rape accusations."

[TRIGGER WARNING for rape and post-rape legal/social mess] There's a lot of talk out there about "false rape accusations," whi...

"Is this spot taken?"

Far too often, patients at the ER try to hit on me. (If you are picturing someone cute and polite who is in the ER for reasons that have not...

A small request.

An open letter to everyone I've engaged in BDSM with: Please do not, in social situations or even vanilla sex, just come out and whomp m...

Peggle and the Smurfette Principle.

I've been playing Peggle lately, because I'm easily amused by bright shiny colors and cheerful dink dink sounds that make it sound...

How to become invisible.

Boston's a great walking city; whether it's socializing, shopping, studying, or just getting outside, I spend a lot of time on the s...

Naming, shaming, and victim blaming.

[Because this issue has already been addressed elsewhere, all names in the following story have been replaced with names from Saturday morni...

"Feminism."

It seems like there's a lot of criticism out there of "feminism" as a label. Often the criticism isn't of any of the actu...

The eternal contradiction.

"Women can get laid whenever they want. Their only job is deciding who they don't want to sleep with. Women don't even know ...

Imaginary Feminism 101.

I was reading the blog Manboobz , which is fascinating in a sort of constantly infuriating way, and has, er, "lively" debate in mo...

Scott Adams Quick-Fisk.

Oh lord, he's like a kid who's just discovered that yelling "fuck" makes everyone look at him and make a big fuss. (Analo...

Why feminists have no sense of humor.

I'm a feminist, or at least a believer in sexual freedom and equality who uses the label "feminist" because that takes less sy...