Guest Post: Top Tips for New Friends in the Scene.

[This is BDSM inside baseball.  If you're not a BDSMer or wannabe BDSMer, I'll have more of my usual tomorrow.] [My friend Match_Sti...

How to go to a play party (and not play).

I've talked before about how to go to a BDSM play party. A very common question I've gotten is: "What if I don't want to ...

Gloves are Great!

[Guest post by Match_Stick ] I love being sexual with lots of people. I love play parties with lots of people experiencing lots of pleasure....

"I don't know."

I've talked a lot before about the need for communication in BDSM and in relationships in general, but for the longest time I had troubl...

Getting into BDSM Part 3: Safety.

[Repost; original post was eaten in Blogger crash.] BDSM is not, in itself, super mega dangerous. It's like any contact sport--there...

Getting into BDSM Part 2: Your First Play Party.

I went to a party last night. Hung out with Rowdy and Sprite and a whole lot of nice folks we know, naked wrestled with another woman for a...

How to get into BDSM (the short version).

So many negative posts lately! This is what happens when I don't get laid for an entire week. (Yes, yes, world's tiniest violin. ...

Goofus and Gallant get into kink.

Goofus hears that kink has to do with sex, sees a bunch of pictures of sexy ladies in tight black things, and decides this is for him. Gall...