How To Have Sex On Purpose.

Captain Awkward. Or Sue.  I might have gotten my notes switched. I had an amazing time in Chicago this weekend.   Everyone at the University...

Getting negotiation going.

First, some big news: I am going to be speaking at the University of Chicago Sex Week! More details available here , but the short version: ...

The Worst Thing In The World.

Because Nothing is Scarier . I used to believe there was such a thing as The Worst Thing In The World.  It's a pretty nebulous thing, mo...

Green flags.

There's a lot of articles out there about "red flags" to watch out for when you're dating someone.  My favorite is the dis...

Escalation.

This week in Developmental Psychology class I presented a paper on dating violence in teenage relationships.  I'm not going to rehash th...

Step One.

There's a lot of talk out there about how to meet the person of your dreams. Or how to pick up someone to screw. Or a whole lot of thi...

Relaxing the sexy.

I hate being "sexy." I'm bad at it--I don't have a "sexy" body, I'm awkward in "sexy" clothes, a...

Desired/Desirer.

I got an email the other day offering me "tribute" for my "time" as a dominatrix. A little annoyed and a little amused, ...

Short iPod Post: Sum of the parts.

Sometimes I'm frustrated that I don't know exactly what I'm into. I have some general ideas on the physical stuff--biting yes p...

A Grand Game.

[This was the "too grouchy" post. Since people are talking about it anyway, what the hell. Just let me note that I don't thi...

I don't want cock.

I got a random message on OkCupid today, and checking it meant my status got reset to "Online Today," and that meant that I got cl...

Fucking While Feminist.

The theme of the "Dating While Feminist" event is based on an interview Jacklyn Friedman gave on the subject of "Fucking Wh...

Go big or go home.

Sign a first date is mediocre: "So what do you do for a living? ...That's very interesting. What made you choose that career?...

In so many words.

For the longest time I agonized about how to say certain things. How do you ask a boy if he likes you? How do you ask for freaky things in...