How To Have Sex On Purpose.

Captain Awkward. Or Sue.  I might have gotten my notes switched. I had an amazing time in Chicago this weekend.   Everyone at the University...

Sex Menu.

[For those who missed it: I haven't been not-writing, I've been writing elsewhere!  Check out my post at Captain Awkward: Pretty Sho...

Playing light.

The Dreaded Bunny Flogger. It still counts. Last night, Rowdy and I did BDSM play and had sex.  What mental image does that give you?  What ...

Returning to Sexyland.

So this blog has been dark for a few weeks.  That's partly just because I'm a pathological procrastinator and I had a lot of schoolw...

Cosmocking Special Edition: Fifty Shades of Cosmocking!

Light pink cover!  Light pink invisi-pants! ...Hang on here.  "Wow Your Man With These Moves Inspired by Fifty Shades of Grey "?  ...

Kinky philosophy for vanilla sex.

Via tumblr  happybdsm , which is awesome [Oh jeez it's been too long. I don't even have a good excuse this time.  The dog ate my blo...

The scene is not safe.

[Trigger warning for rape and BDSM abuse.] I went to a sex party not long ago.  I talked to a bunch of the members and organizers of the gro...

What am I?

I've gotten a whole bunch of emails lately that read like the following (with various combinations of gender/orientation/activity): ...

A concise kink worksheet.

There's a lot of kink negotiation worksheets out there, and frankly, most of them are a mess .  500-item lists of "animal play (pup...

The Geek Social Fallacies of Sex.

xkcd With all apologies to the original , which all geeks should read... I think geek sexuality is an awesome thing.  God knows it's the...